Your wedding day is a day full of excitement and emotions as your family and friends celebrate the two of your lives coming together as one.

For many, it is also a day that they are deciding whether or not to honor the memory of parents, grandparents or other close relatives who have passed away.    Contrary to some couple’s beliefs that it may damper the mood, from experiencing thousands of weddings, we’ve found that honoring their memory actually has had a very uplifting effect as they felt their “presence” during their special day.

There are many different ways of honoring their memory and keeping them close to your heart on your wedding day, these are just but a few ideas:

• A locket with your loved ones picture may be attached to your bouquet.
• Cuff links with pictures may be worn by the groom.
• Memory candles with their names may be displayed along with a personal note such as “Keeping you in our thoughts on our wedding day, until we meet again…..”
• Reserving a seat (or seats) at the ceremony and placing  a lei.   This may be preset in advance, or may also be incorporated into your ceremony by either having the groom place on the chairs right after walking in or having the spouse or son/daughter of the loved one carry in the lei and place on the chair after they walk down the aisle.
• Ringing a bell during the ceremony and taking a moment of silence to recognize the loved one and give all those in attendance a moment to also remember one of their loved ones.
• Placing photos of those to be honored in a visible place in the ceremony is another way to recognize those who are no longer with you
• Including their names in your wedding program
• Another sweet way to remember your family is to use something that has been used for generations or has been handed down to you.  Perhaps you can wear your grandmother’s string of pearls or use your mother’s wedding cake topper, or mother-in-law’s sterling cake cutter for the cake cutting ceremony

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